How to be Angry: Thich Nhat Hanh

A Reflection

Thich Nhat Hanh shows us that anger isn’t something we need to shove down or be ashamed of—it’s a deeply human emotion that deserves mindful attention. He encourages us to treat our anger like a wounded child, holding it tenderly instead of flinging it away. By staying present with these hot, uncomfortable feelings, we learn to understand their roots and let them guide us to their wisdom. This gentle, compassionate approach shifts anger from something destructive into something that can ultimately guide us toward greater understanding and connection.

An Invitation

Take a moment to journal how you first witnessed anger in others—perhaps in your family, in your community, or through cultural cues.

Then notice how you were introduced to your own anger, how it showed up, and what you felt towards it.

Finally, imagine what it might feel like to befriend your anger—to listen to the wisdom it holds instead of pushing it away or letting it lash out. What would be one way to befriend your anger?

A Benediction

May you find the courage to meet your anger with curiosity rather than shame.

May each steady breath remind you that you have the power to ease your own discomfort.

May your gentle attention transform fiery emotions into insights that lead to kinder actions.

And may you remember that in lovingly tending to your own anger, you plant seeds of peace that ripple outward into the world.